I was asked that question this week by a friend of mine, a graduate student whose dissertation looks at evolving attitudes towards sexual abuse.In the course of her research, my friend met a woman in her 40s who, over a series of interviews, repeatedly insisted that she’d been a “little Lolita” in her own preteen years.If you find a dude who can pick up what you’re putting down and reciprocate the interest, you’ve got a winner on your hands.If you’re not afraid to get bold, try some of the below tips to really suss out whether or not you’ve got a dude who can keep up with you.Deborah was desperate for affection, and she thought her piano teacher was “very handsome.” She cuddled up to him on the piano bench, and eventually worked her way up to sitting in his lap.
If there's any connection after that happens, I will make small talk, or ask him what sports he's into or what movies he's seen lately.
Then I'll do something like touch his arm in a flirty way." — Reagan, 14, Pasadena, CA"Be interested in what's going on!
If you're at a party and people are playing a game or watching a movie, don't be afraid to ask questions.
And it is totally normal for people to tell you not to act on it.
And it is totally normal to throw caution to the wind.