Don't bother with the formalities of which parent determines whether the child is Jewish; they're not relevant at this stage.
As long as one maintains his/her moral behavior, one is allowed to have good friends of all sexes and of all kinds. That end of the process is, indeed, against Jewish law; a) - we are a small people, and being Jewish is, inter alia, an all-encompassing way of concrete living - if we intermarry, we disappear, and our way of life goes with it; b) - a great deal of Jewish living centers around the home and the family, and an individual Jew will not be able to live those meaningfully together with a spouse who is not Jewish. Unless you are speaking of a young Jewish woman who has been filled with formal notions about what is or is not written, and has not internalized - or cannot convey to her non-Jewish friend - an intelligent understanding and insight into how real life works, with wisdom and sensitivity.
The practice of not “intermarrying” is in fact one of the oldest features of Judaism.
It dates back to Abraham telling Eliezer, his servant, not to find a wife for his son from the Canaanites.
Not because my parents were against it; they didn’t need to tell me because my traditional Jewish upbringing and day-school education were my safeguards.
I was so connected to my Jewish identity that my betrayal of it was not even statistically probable. I stopped socializing with them in silent protest, after a more outspoken effort had failed.
Our son was bar mitzvahed and attended Hebrew school for five years.If he has no Jewish sons, then our family line will die.Now he has a non-Jewish girlfriend and they are getting serious. The best solution is to raise serious doubts that this will work long-term.His friends were all Jewish as he grew up, and he attended March of the Living.He is the last Jewish male in our family, since my one and only cousin is a female and I am an only child. Please tell me what I should do, my parents say “no way.” Help.